This is why some people are more resilient than others: http://t.ted.com/iUBdewt
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And yet, despite all this research into the importance of failure, our overly-conservative society still seeks to greatly penalize and eternalize it in various ways. We have made too many consequences too long-lasting, more than logic and science say they need to be.
E.g. poor grades can be used against you in hiring even decades down the line and no matter what you've learned. Criminal records can get you treated as a fresh con even after 30 years clean. "Zero tolerance" is lauded.
_Unintentional_ plagiarism can be as far-reaching in consequence as the intentional kind even if it may be that someone did it because they came from an unorthodox educational background and had less skill at, say, paraphrases.
We demand punctuality as a virtue and seek to convert foreign cultures to these "values" through our soft power by ridiculing them when people from them don't follow it because they treat time more flexibly by custom.